There is nothing less attractive than a man who lets his friends walk all over him. Women want a man who is strong and tough and has his own voice. We do not want a man who acts weak around the boys. That is totally lame.
Man response: Oh, and you women are such iconoclasts? You bow down to your squad the minute they say anything contrary to your opinion. It's called "peer pressure" — and peer pressure does not see gender.
When we come from a long day at work and you are sitting in your underwear on the couch for the third day in a row, it's not a good look. You get extra lazy points if you are playing video games and eating something disgustingly bad for you. We want a guy who is motivated, motivating and exciting! Women can't respect a couch potato.
Man response: You know how you love your lazy Sunday mornings where you don't get out of bed, sleep half the day away, don't brush your teeth and wear oversized sweats that haven't been washed in weeks? Yeah, it's kinda like that.
It's really hard to have a partner who isn't living up to their full potential. Seeing them settle when it comes to their job or a life choice is rough. You can't make someone be the man that they are meant to be. We also don't want to feel like their mother. We want someone who can take care of themselves and wants to go far.
Man response: Well, My full potential and your perception of my full potential may be two very different things. Ever think of that? And don't bring mom into this. That woman is a saint!!
If they are a little jealous is fine. A lot jealous is no bueno. It also makes you ask yourself why they are so jealous. If they can't trust, they can't be trusted. It's hard to have respect for someone when they can't trust you at all.
Man response: There is no such thing as "little jealous." There is either jealousy or no jealousy. You can't have it both ways. By the way...who's Frank?
It's not so hot when your partner is a total Debbie Downer. If you aren't happy, work on it! Make a change, go for a run or see a therapist. But coming home to a total dud everyday just isn't going to work. Cheer up, Charlie, or she is going to leave you.
Man response: Am I not allow to be sad? Am I not allowed to feel? I thought you wanted me to feel? That's what you said. Now I am not supposed to feel the feels? And who's this Charlie you speak of?
How can she respect him if he doesn't respect her? If he talks down to her and belittles her, she may take it for a little while but eventually she will see the light and wake up and realize that he isn't good enough for her. How can a woman respect a man who makes her feel small?
Man response: Respect is a two-way street. okay, I am not sure what that means. My mom told me that, and I respect her. See? I'm a good guy! Just ask my mom!
Listen carefully on this one. She doesn't want him to say no to her all the time, but if he let's you walk all over him and just takes it, it's hard to see him as a man. We want a man that will be there for us, but won't melt into a puddle every time you are upset or ask him to help us. It's a partnership so don't let her be the boss of you.
Man response: Fine...NO. Wait...I mean, yes? I don't know. I honestly couldn't follow you on this one. Let's move on for the sake of my sanity.
She does a lot for you. She thinks about first. She brings you treats, runs errands for you, buys you nice little things. If you take it for granted, she is going to stop going above and beyond. Women love to take care of the person that they love, but if they aren't appreciated, they will stop it and move on.
Man response: Okay, I have never taken you for granted. I appreciate everything you do. I just appreciate it IN MY HEAD. If you could read my mind, trust me, you'd see nothing but heaps of praise. Trust me.
Women are sick of men playing it safe. Do you want her to respect you? Go in for the kiss. Tell her how you feel. Ask her out. Pick a place. Make it happen! Be a man! Dammit!!!
Man response: This is one of those "damned if you do/damned if you don't" moments. There is no good outcome here. And you telling me to "be a man" makes me to not want to be a man at all. #sorrynotsorry
It's really hard to respect someone who tries too hard all the time. Just be you. If she likes you for who you are, great! If she doesn't, then you will find someone else who does. But trying to be something you are not, is not a good look.
Man response: Sooo...try hard, but not too hard? Like maybe 73%? I can do that. I mean, I basically did that all through high school so the whole "don't try too hard" is right in my wheelhouse. I got you, girl.
Guys like to coast. They also like to have their cake and eat it too. But if you give her the run around long enough, she is going to get fed up and move on. Women want to know how men feel and what they want. If you can't tell her how you feel, then she isn't going to lose respect you and leave you.
Man response: Ha! Can't commit? Look who's talking? You can't even commit to your order when we go out to dinner. (Remember the risotto incident?) Why should it be any different for me? Ok, I get that ordering food and committing to a relationship are on completely different levels, but it's still the same thing at its core...kinda.
How can she think that you are a man if you can't even admit when you are wrong? It's like dealing with a child. Own your mistakes, man up and admit when you are wrong. If you can't do that, then she can't do anything with you. Including being able to respect you.
Man response: I can totally admit that I'm wrong. Just yesterday at work I told Todd that Dane Cook won an Emmy. Turns out I was wrong and I told Todd, "Hey, my bad." See? Who's a child now?!
Once you make promises that you can't keep, you can no longer be trusted. If you can't be trusted, than what kind of a man are you? Don't promise her things just because you know that that is what she wants to hear if you can't deliver. She will respect you way more for your honesty than the empty promises that won't happen anyway.
Man response: One time! One time I broke my promise! Yes, I told you I would pick you up at the airport but instead went to play laser tag with Seth and Eric. Will you ever let me live this down?
Judging the girl in your life is a way to control her. It's a way to keep the upper hand and manipulate her. She is smarter than you think and eventually she will figure it out. And when she does, all respect will be lost and that will be the end of that.
Man response: Honestly, when it comes to judging, you are queen bee. ( Or is it bae? I don't know. I get confused easily.) You are the master of judging. You're the one with the black robe and gavel. (Which is a real hot look, by the way. Jus' sayin'.)
You think that he is the bee's knees and in reality, he is a mess! We don't want to fix anyone. We don't want to coddle and baby our partner either. How can he be a good partner if he isn't good to himself? A woman will eventually walk away from a self-conscious man. He needs to know he's worth it before she can truly see it too.
Man response: You know why I don't think I am good enough? Look at the above one through fourteen.