This is probably rule number one, and it works both ways. If you’re out on a date with a girl, please don’t flirt with the waitress or bartender. You can keep your focus on one person for a couple of hours, it shouldn’t be that difficult.
Men just love to mansplain. Not too long ago, I went on a dinner date with a guy who tried to explain the works of a Russian author to me. I had already told him I’m well-versed in this author’s stuff. Oh, and he kept mispronouncing the author’s name. Then I corrected his pronunciation, but he didn’t believe I was correct … I guess the fact that I’m fluent in Russian didn’t phase him.
We get it, sometimes things happen and you could be running late. But, more than 20 minutes is unacceptable. If you don’t respect someone’s time right off-the-bat, how are they supposed to respect you?
Put a little effort into how you present yourself for this date. I once went on a date with a guy who smelled like the inside of a deep-fryer in the local bodega. Also, don’t wear flip-flops on your first date, unless that date is at a beach bar.
While it’s good to look your best for a date, don’t overdo it. I don’t want the guy I’m going on a date with to look like he spent longer getting ready than I did. Take it easy with the cologne, hair gel, etc. Essentially, don’t emulate anyone from the cast of the Jersey Shore.
Oh, this is just such bad form. A first date is not the time nor the place to bring up past relationships. I don’t care about all the things that went wrong in your previous relationships. I’m just trying to get to know more about you.
Listen, you can still be a feminist and expect a guy to pay for dinner and/or drinks on your first date. You already get paid more than us on average, so why not use those extra cents you get on the dollar for this? If the lady is super into paying for herself, or paying for you, let her. But, you shouldn’t assume, and you should offer to pick up the check.
I went on a date with one guy and he wouldn’t shut up about how expensive the place we were eating was (it really wasn’t that bad). It’s bad form to discuss money on a date, also it’s just a huge turn-off. You don’t want to come across as miser on a first date.
There’s a difference between complimenting your appearance and then rating it. I once had a guy who kept saying stuff like, “Oh, good, your eyebrows are a good shape, that’s good.” Also, “Your body is nice. A lot of girls on Tinder look fatter in real-life.” Yeah, I was sitting there and it was as though he was marking off the physical criteria on some bizarre list.
What are we, Mormons? Well, if you are, then shaking hands is just dandy. But, for us secular folks, just go in for a hug. This isn’t a business meeting. You’re trying to see if you want to potentially sleep with this person. You don’t have to keep it so formal. It sets off the whole date on an awkward note
This is also usually coupled with “talking at” your date. I don’t want to just hear you go on and on about yourself. I don’t care who you know or what you spend your money on. Also, in terms of self-importance, please don’t lay out all your stances on everything on the first date. This is not the time to play “holier than thou.”